As a mom with five young kids I know how important it is to take care of yourself too!
I know because I’ve failed many times. You know those times when you’ve cried in the bathroom while your kids continued to dump beads into the carpet while screaming at each other and begging for ice cream all before breakfast? And you have no energy or desire to stop them? Yeah. It happens. Too bad we can’t go back to our warm bed, hide under our blankets, and watch Netflix all day.
What do we do instead?
First off, how do you know you’ve failed? Not at parenting. Not at life. You are AWESOME and you’re doing a GREAT job! How do I know? Because you are here hoping to improve (or help me improve!) and because I’ve seen you!
The mom at the store, frazzled, because her child won’t stop screaming so she resorts to begging, pleading, bribing and finally just slinging her kid over her shoulder, leaving her cart full of diapers and chicken nuggets, and leaving.
The dad who takes his child to the park, but is on his phone—working still to provide said child with some food and maybe even some karate lessons.
The mom who goes anywhere in public with five children and repeatedly hears, “Wow! You have your hands full!” at least ten times.
I see you. I know you! And you are awesome!
But do any of these following sound familiar?
You just don’t love parenting, but you used to.
You feel so exhausted, physically and emotionally, that you just want to stay in bed all day. (Or run off to work as fast as possible!)
Your children are a chore, a To-Do list, and not your joy.
It doesn’t have to be as dramatic as all that. Maybe it’s just that you get frustrated a little more than you want. Or you just want them in bed an hour earlier each night.
(Seriously though, wouldn’t it be amazing if your child came up to you at 6 p.m. and said, “Father, Mother, I know you need a break. Perhaps some alone time. I have cleaned my room, brushed my teeth and will now put myself to bed. Goodnight dearest parents.”) I hope you read that in a proper, perhaps British, accent.
*sigh* I can dream.
Don’t you owe it to yourself and your children to care for you too?
And guess what? It can take less time than you think.
First up will be drinking water.
Yes, you read that right. Drinking water.
Until then, my friends, stay strong. Sneak some chocolate with you into that bathroom and be brave!
I’m going to go drink some water.